Barby's Diary

You hear people say things like ‘’if you move with four billionaires, you are likely to be the fifth’’, ‘’your network determines your net worth’’ etc. Life is so funny and you may want to ignore these wise sayings. Please don’t! The secret to your open doors and potentials lies within these words of wisdom. You move with the right team, the possibility you get it right is high. You move with the wrong team, you’re on an all-time low. Thirty friends cannot walk together for thirty years…there’ll be a paradigm shift as you go along. Whilst you may discover why you do not need Mr. A in your team anymore, you may as well be awoken to the reality that you need Mr. B on your team. Excuse me, but there is no hard feelings to this! Like I always say, complacency is not an option. You did not come to this life to be mediocre. When you see people hustle their way to the top, and you mock them for being a ‘’famzer’’, you have no idea why they do what they do. And you may keep laughing

LONG POST ALERT!!! I want to think that MJ’s first formal proposal was to my family; my Dad in particular. Not bad… Maybe I am a traditional person, because I had always wanted my Dad to give his blessings before we went on with the wedding plans. I see that some people just get engaged and that’s when they get families involved and then one person’s family is not totally receptive of the other, and the problems just never stops from the outset. I didn’t want that embarrassment for either of us. MJ comes from a large family and is the last child of eleven children with all his elder siblings married with children (now you have a mental picture). It is usually very difficult to warm up to such number of people at the same time due to diverse backgrounds but I must say that I had a seamless transition and in my opinion they were all receptive of me. We had built and sustained a healthy relationship with them over time and I was a regular face at family occasions and all. Li

So I’m not talking about how my husband and I met, I already wrote about that here . Today’s article is basically on when we started planning on getting married.  We got to a point in our relationship where we both realized that we wanted to be together for the long haul and forever. Note that this wasn’t based on how long we had dated (at this time, we were six years and counting). It was based on a mutual feeling and desire to live together as husband and wife, raise a family and experience life together. We had the long talk, one Easter break in 2015 (yes, and we are not getting married until, 2017! Keyword is PLAN AHEAD), middle of NYSC programme and we both decided that our wedding wasn’t taking place that year or the next. We jointly decided that we were going for an LLM (Masters in Law) degree, get a good job and then get married soon after. We had it all figured out…or so we thought. Life happened. MJ got admitted to run his LLM, I didn’t. However, my place of pri

Dear Diary, you remember I got married in April this year? Yeah, I knew you wouldn’t forget. It’s been a different school entirely. And it’s been more than I imagined it to be. Even better. But sincerely, it has come with so much responsibility, which I am still trying to wrap my head around and be on top of my game. Hubby thinks I (we) are doing well, but I think I am still struggling. Partly because I am in LAGOS! I like the part where I get to come back from work, and instead of thinking of dealing with poor networks and conversing with Bae, I get to talk to him face to face and he ‘’feels’’ me, literally. No, I’m not even writing about this part. I now have to deal with two hungry people who just got back from work. Himself and I. If I were probably home alone, I’ll sometimes just sleep off in hunger and continue my life the next morning. But now, I have to ask bro ‘’what do you want for dinner?’’. Even when deep down me , I do not really care but just want to shower and

GUUUUUYYYYYSSSSS! How have y’all been? What’s the latest at your end? Just finished the second phase of my examination, and I cannot be more thankful that it’s over…at least for now. I almost gave up at some point because it was beginning to become a burden, but all is fine now. I am a survivor. Aside the examinations, I have been dealing with my relocation to Lagos, my new home and new life, and my upcoming nuptials. You can imagine my life right now with all these to process and handle. It’s been a lot, but I’m holding on. Sometimes, I need a break and want to run away from my life, other times, the super woman in me shows up, and I show ‘’dem’’ who the boss is. Sincerely, a nice vacation wouldn’t hurt nobody at this point. Who has a spare ticket to Seychelles? Since I had my traditional wedding, I always knew I’ll do a post on a few things to do/not to do when planning a wedding. Thankfully, I have a real-life experience to share with you, and I can say I had a succe

Dear Diary, I am back to Lagos. For the long haul this time. I have mixed feelings about this. One part of me is screaming a big ‘’NOOOOOO, this shouldn’t have happened’’, the other part is saying, ‘’okay, not that bad’’. Errrm, I cannot find the right words to describe how I feel. It’s a sleep in Abuja, wake up in Lagos thingy. To be fair, we were pre-informed. But we weren’t left with so much options to choose from. I think we had just two options. 1. Say yes and live happily ever after with them. 2. Say no and live happily ever after without them. I chose number 1, because the economic situation in this country wouldn’t even make you choose number 2 except there was a backup plan. So, I literally slept in Abuja and woke up in Lagos. 30-03-2017, we were reminded of our commitment to change base and we were to resume 03-04-2017. That is only a day interval (If you do not count the weekends). I had to pack up, book a flight, and make myself ready for the journey that will

Hello beautiful people! I'm so happy to bring this good news to you. Let me be the first person to tell you that I am MARRIED! Yaaaaaaaaay!!! I truly am. Traditionally. And yes, I am married to the man of my dreams...seems so surreal and BOOM! at the same time. But that's not why we are here anyway. Let me give you the full gist of the relationship from the beginning. How it all started. Because you deserve to hear it from me and I share the little deets about my life with you innit? I'm sure MJ (My Jewel) will be like, ''naaaaaaaa, baby, you did not just say you want to discuss our private matters with your readers''. Yeah honey, I did say that. I am a blogger remember? I am about to wash our sparkling linen outside for the world to see. *tongue out* Or maybe I should just write my own ''On Becoming'' book (my Nigerian readers will understand better)? I'll try to be brief though, so I don't spill all the juices, in case I ch

Christine Ogbeh, Samiya Oyekan-Ahmed and Uche Pedro Hi Guys, how have you all been without me? Bored right? Hahahaha...I thought as much. So, some interesting things have been happening in my life lately, and I'll love to share with you as the opportunity presents itself. One of it is, my event production course/mentoring programme which I started with The Wedding Guru. Let me give you a brief insight: The Wedding Guru is into bespoke wedding planning with services ranging from event designing and event planning. For some years now, I have nursed the business of event planning and I've also silently ''stalked'' the founder of The Wedding Guru; Mrs Christine Ogbeh. If you are familiar with social media, especially Instagram, the brand ''The Wedding Guru'' should not be new to you. My stalking has paid off finally, as Mrs Christine has my attention as her ''mentee'' (allow me to famz in peace please!) Lol. I registered

😊Hi BDiarians! I should actually cover my face in shame, I know. But since I'm already shamelessly in love with you, (that's a shame I don't regret), I have decided to just come back here and pick up from where we stopped. How have you all been? It's been how long again??? Can't believe I didn't even wish you lovelies a happy new year! My bad! I got so carried away with events that I would come here on some days, read through our convos, smile at myself and keep living my life. Lol. Such an almost lazy blogger! But don't even think I didn't have enough gist for you guys...that'll be a HUGE lie! I have never had so many things to write about at the same time than I do now. My head is full. I feel like we should just have a conference call and I'll let you in on all that has happened since we last spoke. I owe you guys this though...HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! Better late than never right? And happy new month too. It's February and the month of l