Barby's Diary

My people, my people...this week must be good oh, I wake up every morning feeling happy. But it seems I know the secret; when you dress well, and you get compliments, you feel a certain kinda way. Yesterday, I wore the same dress worn by one of my fashion icons and she reposted the picture on her Instagram page. Cool right? Lol. Yesterday still, this happened...

What's your plan? Have a drive, have a goal, focus on the dream, and watch yourself excel. I have never been a fan of ''take each day as it comes''. Very wrong statement. Taking each day means you accept whatever comes your way like you don't have a choice. You do have a choice, and you shouldn't take each day as it comes, instead, OWN each day. Push yourself and try harder. A friend once said that there is a difference between ''working hard'' and ''working smart''. The two entails working but the difference lies in how you work. Do not labor in vain. Work hard, and if you are not achieving as much result as you hoped for, try something different. Don't be afraid of change, don't be afraid of pushing yourself. Every man has the ability to be better. It is also said that; ''no matter how long and hard you work on a wrong route, you can never get to the right destination''. What a wise statement! T...

Hi ya! Top of the morning to you.   How was the weekend? Mine was ok except that for some reasons best known to my network, I couldn't access the internet...and that pained me much cos I missed doing what I planned. However, it is better late than never, so here it is... Yesterday and infact this week is a special one for me. Two of my siblings have their birthday in this week and I am elated about it. Remember I told y’all my parents have five kids right? Three women and two men (lol). And we follow each other in that order. The ladies first, before the men. How courteous, ladies first! So yesterday was our baby of the house’ birthday. He is not a baby anymore though. He told me his age and almost didn’t believe him, I had to calculate myself. My parents don try sha and I hail them.   Aint easy oh. Back to my brother… This guy is such a genius, I (we) love him like kilode. He is one guy with a good heart and the way he adores his elder broth...

I don't know how people do it, and I don't agree it is possible to be friends without benefit with an ex. I would need a lot of convincing on this one to allow it sink in and look normal to me. He/She would call you everyday, keep tabs on you...what you eat, what you wear, where you and your current bf/gf  went on vacation to or what else could they possibly be talking about? Their past? Their good times? Or the error they made whilst together and if they had put in a little more effort, it could have worked out better than it did? Please tell me? When they both claim that there are no sexual benefits, this is usually the line of conversation they say they have and they would want you to agree that there isn't anything wrong with it. My dear, there is everything wrong in it. You want to know why? 'Cos it can wake up old feelings and create room for dramas. And aint nobody got time for that! Why would they want to hang out and have a drink? ...

Hi Cupcakes, how did yesterday go? Good? Not so good? Don't worry, today is gonna be a good day, if you believe, shout the loudest Amen/Amin. Halleluyah! Lol. You would think that I became a prophet overnight. I am jare. The Bible says ''decree a thing and it shall come to pass''. We all have the authority to do so, that's why we should speak forth and it shall be established. For those of us going through one difficulty or the other, I pray for you, that God shall fight your battles, and you shall hold your peace. Amen. Many of us (if not all of us) are looking to God for a miracle. First things first, know that there's no greater miracle than the miracle of sleeping and waking up, and once there is life, there is hope for a better tomorrow. So, don't complain when things aren't going the way you planned it, you never can tell, God has better and greater plans for you. If I wasn't convinced about writing and telling you this, trust me, I would...

Hi darlings... No, I haven't abandoned you. And I am not tired, I cannot be. I figured some peeps visited the blog today and I can imagine their disappointment when they figured there were no new posts. But there are old ones na, read and re-read, you'll always find something you didn't find the first time. I am (was) just down because the comments coming in were not encouraging. I need to get feedbacks, I need to feel that you are on the other side and you can feel me too. I wasn't going to say this, but it hurts to write and refresh hours later only to see 2 comments. I will cry oh! That's if I haven't already shed tears in my heart sef. I also know that it may be due to the difficulties people are experiencing in trying to comment. I have done my little modifications, I have spoken to experts and friends who operate blogs and I have tried test running with my phone...it worked when I used the default browser. So try that too. Can I shed a tear now? Lol...

Personally, I think that the pressure on young ladies to get married in this part of our world is unfair. Although the biological clock does not tick in their favor, please afford them the opportunity to be mentally and physically ready for the huge step. I am not one of dem ladies who would get herself  worked up because of this marriage issue and I advice all single ladies to do same. There's nothing like ''You don finish school, where is the man?'' Please did you send me to school to hook a man? I thought it is books they read in school, when did that change to the study of man? I didn't get the memo. Sorry. Me I sha wouldn't subscribe to such nonsense from anyone, especially outsiders (I can give excuses for parents and siblings but anyone aside them should take several seats abeg). Have you noticed that it is even the outsiders that are more ''concerned'' than your parents and siblings? When the see you at your friend's...

Let us picture a scenario. Bimbo an only child lives in Egbeda, Lagos with her parents but never schooled in Lagos. Her primary school education was in Kaduna where her parents previously lived, she then went to a boarding house in Kogi State for her secondary school education before gaining admission to study Petroleum Engineering at one of the Eastern Universities. Her youth service was in Bayelsa State and after she passed out, she luckily got a job with an oil firm in Victoria Island Lagos where she works from 8am to 6pm every day excluding weekends. Due to traffic issues in Lagos and because of the distance between where she lives and where she works, she wakes up by 4:30am so that she can leave the house by 5:30am and get to work before 8am each day. She closes by 6pm, and gets home no later than 9:30pm depending on the nature of the day's traffic. Some days are worse, she gets home at 10pm or later. On Saturdays, she does household chores(cook...

HI. Just a quick one(that's the meaning of a ''quickie'' right?) I have been getting complains from our readers who are finding it difficult to comment on the blog. I can really imagine the discouragements it has caused for these set of people and the variety of insightful opinions we have missed on the different articles due to this challenge. I AM SORRY. Please keep trying and I hope these tips would settle the problem. After due consultation with various experts in the field, the only logical solution which we all came to was for readers to comment through their computer or phone's DEFAULT BROWSER (the browser that came with your phone) or and not opera mini, UC browser or the likes. I did the demo myself, and I tried to post a comment using opera mini and the default browser on my phone, I could only post a comment with the default browser. I suggest you do same, till we find a lasting solution without any hitch. Also, if you have successfully typed y...

Been a while right? Not like I abandoned you my darlings, it's just that the week has been kind of busy for me. I tried to put together a post but it didn't come through. Personally, I want to thank God for the safety of the Orekoya kids, I just heard this morning that they have been returned safely to their mother. For the benefit of those that may not know the story, the kids(three young boys including an 11 month old baby) were kidnapped by their nanny who started working with them a day before the kidnap. From stories that went viral on the internet, I could gather that the working mother of the kids got the nanny through a site online (name withheld) which offers local classified ads for jobs, for sale, real estate, services etc. She conducted her ''due diligence'' and was convinced she had gotten a nanny for the job after speaking via phone call to two guarantors who attested to knowing the nanny. Long story short, the next day, the kids went out with ...

Hi Sweethearts, how was the weekend? And the elections? How did it go at your end? Thank God for peace in Nigeria, that's all I can say. The whole election fear is over and we can all return to normalcy already. For me, my weekend was great. On Saturday, I attended a party with my sis' and my niece and that's what this post is about. It was a party of young people so, as a guest, you could come alone, or with your husband or wife, fiancé or fiancée, boyfriend or girlfriend etc as you deemed fit. After prayers where said to begin the event, everyone was asked to introduced themselves by stating their names, status, hobbies and other details you may feel necessary. That's where the drama started... Married couples easily stated their names, hobbies and the fact that they were ''happily married'' with -- number of kids. No problem. The engaged guests too happily said they were engaged to the ''handsome man/beautifu...

My Darlings, I hope you all woke up well? And how's the voting exercise going on at your end? Some of us are free to move around today because there's no election in the FCT. If you are out and about performing your civic responsibility, please do so in peace and be security conscious. Stay out of trouble. The world needs you. I was going through Blogger's statistics on my blog and guess what I found out??? We have 1000+ pageviews already! We have readers from Nigeria, US, UK, UAE, France, Indonesia, Saudi Arabia n co. Wow!, we only just started this less than a week ago! Imagine what we can achieve in a month or a year or in years to come. Despite your busy schedule and the multitude of blogs that we all know today, you still found out time to stop and read and comment. God bless you. I'm grateful, I'm grateful, I'm grateful. This feat wouldn't have been possible without every one of YOU. The feedback is amazing. When I say you inspire me, I mean it...

Hi Sugars...hope you had a good yesterday? Don't worry, today will be better. Just put it in prayers and put in more efforts. Between, T.G.I.F! What's your plan for the weekend? Are you voting? Please stay outta trouble. So i'm all for cleanliness is next to Godliness and that's why today, we're talking about something very important and very delicate too, which gives me so much concern; Body Odour, Mouth Odour, Vagina Odour, Shoe Odour and any odour at all. Any of them or all of them is BAD!!! And what is bad is bad. No two way about it. Haba na! Pity friends and family that come your way on a daily basis. How can one be so cruel? LOL. Some days ago I read a friend's PM (personal message) on BBM and he said ''people should invest in soaps, deodorants, perfumes and co if not for themselves but for the sake of other people they meet daily''. I couldn't agree less. What does it take to be clean and smell like a million bucks really? Not so ...

Is it an ''act'' or an ''art''?  Take note, that one of them is the doing of a thing while the other is the skill or craft in doing a thing. Don't get confused dear, I'm talking about the ''Act and Art of  Prying''. Thumbs up to some peeps!!! They can be nosy for Africa or even the world! They don't understand the word ''privacy'', everything is community purpose for them. They feel that they have the unreserved right to know what is going on in your life. Those of them that confronts you and even ask bizarre questions are ''respectful''. Have you met those who wouldn't ask but would find out by themselves??? Like, they want to know who's the guy you're seeing and would check your dialed calls, missed calls, messages, chat history on social media and co just to be well equipped with enough info. Friends fa? Not even the boyfriend and girlfriend ish. Ok na. Even if it is the boy...

Good Morning Great Minds. I woke up this morning and was blank as to what we should discuss. So many things to write about but you know there has to be an inspiration to be able to pen your thoughts down and avoid writing O.P (off point) and bore my darling readers. You know I hold y'all in high esteem and I just cannot afford that, right? Back to the topic...what inspires you? An inspiration is a thing that makes a person want to do something. A quick twist; an inspiration may also be a person that motivates another to do something. Therefore, an inspiration can be a thing or a person. Where do you draw inspiration from??? Is it from your surroundings, your friends, colleagues at work, your siblings, your children...the list is endless. Again, do you think you are an inspiration to someone else? The humble you in YOU might want to think that asking yourself this question is thinking so much of oneself, but my darlings, it is n...

I was a shy person. Hard to believe but very true. It's been this way since my childhood. I was scared to associate with my peers. Growing up, we (my siblings and I), where not allowed to mingle. Our parents shielded us from other kids so we don't pick up the wrong morals. I was always on my own and doing my stuffs. I live in Lagos, and at barely 10 years, I started boarding school at Federal Government College(FGC) Ilorin, Kwara State. I made a lot of friends but I was still  my shy self and it held me back in many ways. So I thought, how could this be happening to me if I wanted to become a successful lawyer? Then, I decided to join the Press Club and I had to read school news at the Assembly Hall to both staff and students and the Principal of course. Nice! Who does that? Shy smallie like me, ke? I will just faint or miss my steps when climbing the podium or cry when the whole school begins to laugh at me if I miss my lines. Oh My Gosh! I w...

I hope u all had a nice night? Tell me about it! Mine was nothing short of my routine; get my niece from crèche, bathe her, feed her, put her to sleep before I (cook or) eat something and then, my bed asap. I get my niece from crèche because I stay with my sister and she closes from work later than 6pm, she's a Banker, you guessed right. But I have a little challenge, I think I sleep too early. Like, 8pm or 9pm most times and I wake up by 6am. I mean, I sleep for 10hrs at night. Gross, right? I think it is. Though, I don't get to nap during the day because of work. I discussed this with my mum and she goes; "it's fat! you're too fat and it'll make you lazy soon". N.B - She tells me this everyday of my life (LOL). It use to worry my heart out but I don't curr anymore sef, I have developed the thickest skin to it. *tongue out* I mean, I only weigh 70kg the last time I checked and I'm in my twenties. Errrrrrm, is that too much? I dunno if...

It's too early to start sounding like a cry baby but something just happened; I wrote an article that I wanted to share some minutes ago on CONFRONTING YOUR FEARS and guess what? I cannot explain what happened, I don't know what I punched on the keyboard, seems like it all wiped off  *hot tears streaming down my face*. Why na? Nawa! Na so we go dey dey? And I wrote a whole lot of many many things (please pardon my diction) and was looking forward to getting feedback from you. I'm bent on sharing that article with you guys so I'm going to keep trying until I can locate it. A part of me doesn't want to believe it is gone. It cannot be! Mbanu! I reject it. Amen. Till I find it, pray for me, Barby.

Hi Lovelies and how's your day going? I am in the office and I just thought; "why not write about how this all started"?  So, here it is. I have thought about owning my own blog for some time now, I cannot wrap my head around why. I just find myself exploring and trying my hands on new things. Everyday, I birth new ideas in this tiny head of mine. It's the passion to be different and carve my niche. I mean, women are doing great things out there, why can't I be one of them? I started reading blogs some eight years ago(no kidding!) from BellaNaija to Linda Ikeji's blog(in that order because LIB wasn't so popular then), I feel like a Boss for my long "followership". Lol. I was introduced to blogging by my elder sister and I became quite addicted at the time, and my addiction has also drawn siblings and friends alike to these blogs, suffice to say, they also became addicted after frequent visits too. But now, it is time ...

Hi Everyone. Welcome to my World. A little about myself; I am the third child in a family of five children, a lawyer by profession and an entrepreneur by choice. I love to look good, read, cook, surf the net, be around loved ones, and be the best I can be (you'll always find me doing one or some of the above at a time). This is a "diary"; where I write down my personal experiences and thoughts. So, I am making you all my best friends, my companion, my confidant, my critic, and my other self. I sincerely hope you do not bail on me when I need you most, and that we make this as interesting as it can be for ourselves. Feel free to share you experiences and thoughts with me too. Much Love, Barby.